Open Question: Have You Ever?
Posted on 22 January 2010
Have you hurt someone so much that it hurts to see them hurt? Have you walked away on someone you truly felt at ease with? Had you left someone without a simple goodbye? Have you left some unsaid things unsaid to someone who deserves to know and hear? Have you said some unkind things to someone becuase you were angry and didn’t mean it? Have you want to return to them and tell them your true intentions? Have you ever…
We are only human… We hurt and get hurt… it’s a learning process…
It’s an open question… I know I’ve never had an open question blog post before, but it would be nice for some answers just because we are only human…. besides, something new to spice up the blog. ehehe
6 responses to Open Question: Have You Ever?
Yes I have to all of the above. When the time comes I do find my way to say what I need to say then be on my way. Somethings are inevitable but forgiving helps ease the pain.
I would have to say yes to most of it. It’s nice to go back and explain things, but I feel that sometimes it’s best not to, even if they think badly of you, maybe it’s better that way, then they’ll get over the situation faster and move on, life goes on. It’s the complexity of how we think, not like when we were kids.
Bee, Forgiving does help ease the pain, but then again, what is done had been done…
Nye, Sometime people do think that explaining it is too late depending on how long we wait for it. But you are right, we are full grown adults now, we need to push aside all the childish thinkings…
I don’t think I ever experienced what you described. I do have lot of regret but I try not to think about them. They have a way of creeping in but I don’t dwell on it. What you mentioned I see it as obstacle. It will always blocking your progress. Sometime one need to confront our obstacle and deal with it regardless of the outcome. It is better in the long run. You don’t want to live in a state of “what if” or “I could’ve or should’ve”.
Hi Moze, I am usually a silent reader to your blog but this time i thought I’d comment because this situation has happened to me and it basically ruined my life. I don’t want to go into a long story but the situations happened just as you said with either being hurt and hurting someone and never being able to get an explanation or letting them know how you feel. Lots of words were exchanged and life went on with us each on different roads but inside i had lots of pain. I dealt with it the wrong way and ended up living a life with many regrets. Yes, I did want to clear up the misunderstanding and forgive all that was done but no words can make the past forgotten and what difference would it make now that my life is in ruins. i can only live with it and move on with my life.
Dellas, best way for anything is to let go and forget all about it, i know life is life and at times it’s hard, but I believe that the challenge of it makes us who we are today.
Alice, thanks for being a reader to my blog! I do agree, if we never express those feelings one day it’ll eat us up alive. At times, people will say many unkind things to satisfy their anger, but not their mind and heart. I myself does that at times too. we all live through life and I think it’s a lesson that needs to be learned.